I have been obsessed with my bead loom this weekend and am late, I know.
I'll keep it short and give you a quote from one the best known highschool movies ever, I think.
It's also something to think about.
Alison (the outsider): Why are you being so nice to me?
Claire (the "school princess"): Because you're letting me.
You know what movie it is? Then let's sing together "Don't you forget about me ...." ;-)
P.S. And yes, I thought Bender was real hot, too ...